Some stern stigma talk.
Today I decided to wear one of the dresses I got for Christmas that I haven’t worn yet. I tried it on (with the tags) and ended up wanting to wear it, so I forgot to remove the tag.
I get to Statistics and as my professor is walking around doing a homework check she sees the tag, pulls it off for me, and say, "Oh, you’re a size zero!" kinda loudly.
After the absolutely ridiculous and oppressive amount of ED awareness they had recently in the cafeteria… It’s just something I don’t really like/want to be brought up for so many reasons. Mostly false assumptions, judgment, and jealous hatred. It’s bad enough that when I’m in a bathing suit around some of my girl friends and they start putting themselves down because of my body. Because it makes me feel like I’m a bad person and that it’s my fault they hate themselves. The worst part? I can’t even try to console them because the usual response is, "You don’t understand, you’re already skinny!" (Actually, I take that back… The worst part is that they aren’t even overweight! Just not as lean as I am.)
No, I’ve never been overweight. No, I’ll never understand what it’s like to be overweight if I maintain my healthy lifestyle. Though even when I do nothing I stay the same size, just without the muscle definition. But none of that means I don’t understand the psychology and physiology of being overweight or obese. Maybe not from experience, but I know the type of information a doctor would about the subject. I’ve done my research.
I just think it’s unfair that this sort of judgment has to be put on me or anyone else with a healthy body type similar to mine simply because judgments on all other body types “aren’t allowed”. Why only thin people? Not that anyone should be judged, but why is it okay to judge one but not the other? The ED stigma is terrible… And I don’t even have one. I’m at a completely healthy weight. I’m 5’8” and 130 lbs, which tends to go up to 135 if I’m doing a lot of strength training. Maybe I have an overactive metabolism. Though I think that would’ve shown up when I got my hormones tested a couple years ago.
I won’t get into it too far… But seriously. Some of these things are a lack of discipline. Not everyone that is overweight or “not thin” has an ED. I personally don’t care what choices other people choose to make. It doesn’t phase me if someone is overweight. I don’t concern myself with the lives of others in the sense that what people choose to do is not my business. But I do think that before you use other people as a comparison for which you can put yourself down (possibly for sympathy) you should take into consideration whether or not you’re the real victim, here. Because people sometimes portray it as if being overweight is never ever the overweight person’s fault and that thin people can be used and disposed of to avoid the problem instead of fixing it. (Obviously sometimes it isn’t the person’s fault.)
That probably sounds insensitive, but that’s also probably because calling people fat is a no-no and calling people anorexic is still not really considered a no-no just because “that body type is thin, model-like, which is better than being fat”. Whether you have Binge Eating Disorder or Anorexia, you have a problem that needs to be addressed. Neither one is better than the other. Being emaciated is not better than being obese. What people need to focus on is not comparing their body type to others, but focusing on if they’re healthy and if they may have a means of becoming even healthier.
I’m sorry. But I’m just sick of people comparing themselves to me. Or anyone else that exhibits some “ideal” trait, whether it be body type, intelligence, musical talent, whatever. To be blunt, people who fail or do not possess something ideal shouldn’t expect to be showered in pity. That’s just not how life works. Nobody likes negativity. That’s not to say that we should shower successful people in excess praise, however. A congratulations every once in awhile for doing well is a nice thing. But in general, successful people know they’re successful and don’t need to be told as much… They likely have better self-esteem. People should be looking up to successful or “ideal” people, not putting themselves down in comparison to them. Plenty of happy and successful people don’t like to see unsuccessful people put themselves down. They try to inspire those people so they may become successful, also.
Positivity, guys. This was not meant to be offensive, but a post to reveal the “other side” to the issue.